It seems like a lot has happened since I last blogged. So I'll update on motherhood so far.
Eldest seems to be settling into school more, met some of his friends and met a couple of mothers who I never met before.
Middle child also settling sometimes cries before nursery but doing OK.
Baby is getting chubbier by the day. The Eczema is better but the meeting with the Specialist was a big let down. Its a good thing Baby's skin was getting better before I met him. Someone was telling me that African remedies and medicine is far more effective in the treatment of Black skins. I believe them. My sister in law made a crude concoction of crushed anti biotics and Vaseline made in Nigeria and it works! She also gave me some herbs for him to wash in.
My Sister thought she had eczema and she had a really bad skin for 16 years, very sensitive, weeping and crusty and darkened her skin. Went to South Africa and the Dr told her that it was a parasite she had picked up from a beach when she was 18. Her skin has now completely healed and she can't stop looking at herself in the mirror. I haven't seen her yet but I well up every time I think about it.
My personal development is going well. I have been reading about Tony Buzan's mindmapping and it is revolutionising my life. I can plan lessons quickly and easily and it works with the way I work. Excellent for a time poor mom.
I have so much to do in my day I find it hard to wind down. Anybody else had this problem? What did you do to combat it? Love to hear from you.
Peace out
Saturday, 7 March 2009
Monday, 23 February 2009
Work, paid work
Went back to work before half term and its like stepping into a paralell universe. The building is the same but so much have changed and the scary thing is I only went on mat leave 9 months ago. Crazy.
I need to work on my own thing. I procrastinate a lot and I am a woman of very many words and not enough action although I mean well. But this situation forces me to change as I feel so uncomfortable.
My move will be gradual but I've already fed and watered my brain for change and movement. I really want to do some work for myself. Watched BET honours last night and one of the honorees said that I must run head first into sucess and not to be afraid of it. I have been afraid of it for so long that it is now beckoning me to take that leap of faith.
As per usual I have had a lot of vocal support from friends. There have been a lot people telling me not to change who I am and all of a sudden telling me about my good points.
I have finally found my place, I'm a good communicator, people confide in me and I'm good at making friends. I'm looking at counselling and I'm going to try broadcasting and a little journalism as well having teaching to fall back on.
I can and I will. The good thing about it is I can take my time and fit it around my kids until the time comes for me to accelerate.
Do you need change but are afraid of it? Condition your mind. Prepare mentally for change don't just say what you are going to do but think it, believe it and take action. What comes naturally to you? How can you make money or derive an income from it? Believe and love yourself then take that big leap of faith....
I need to work on my own thing. I procrastinate a lot and I am a woman of very many words and not enough action although I mean well. But this situation forces me to change as I feel so uncomfortable.
My move will be gradual but I've already fed and watered my brain for change and movement. I really want to do some work for myself. Watched BET honours last night and one of the honorees said that I must run head first into sucess and not to be afraid of it. I have been afraid of it for so long that it is now beckoning me to take that leap of faith.
As per usual I have had a lot of vocal support from friends. There have been a lot people telling me not to change who I am and all of a sudden telling me about my good points.
I have finally found my place, I'm a good communicator, people confide in me and I'm good at making friends. I'm looking at counselling and I'm going to try broadcasting and a little journalism as well having teaching to fall back on.
I can and I will. The good thing about it is I can take my time and fit it around my kids until the time comes for me to accelerate.
Do you need change but are afraid of it? Condition your mind. Prepare mentally for change don't just say what you are going to do but think it, believe it and take action. What comes naturally to you? How can you make money or derive an income from it? Believe and love yourself then take that big leap of faith....
Sunday, 25 January 2009
There's not a friend.
I didn't want to use this blog to share my faith but some things have happened to me over the past 2 weeks that I can only describe as a Godsend. 2 weeks ago I met a mom whose son had a similar skin condition to my baby at Church. She was introduced to me by my Church sister who lives near me. I remember that on my first visit this lady was reading a book to my son in the Church creche and I remember him looking so comfortable it was amazing. He was only 4 or 5 months at the time. For privacy I will call her Angela (not her real name). She told me about her son, what worked for her and she gave me a lot of reassurance. She gave me her details and her email address which contained a quote that I hear all the time on BET 'Dream Big'. Well intrigued I rang her to say thanks for the advice and on Thursday she dropped round some cream and she offered to look after my boys or baby so I can have a sleep.On Saturday I rang her in despair as my hubby was late for picking us up from town and it was getting v dark. she offered to pick me up if he didn't turn up and reiterated that she will happily look after the boys on Sunday if I needed some rest. As plans for Sunday were not finalised at that point I could not take her up on the offer. But at mad o'clock in the morning I texted her to day that we will all come to her house and I will bring what I was cooking which was Roast Chicken, rice and peas. I would have to cook the babys food once I got there. Well a good time was had by all. My boys and her family ( she has 4 kids 3 beautiful girls and one quiet boy) gelled instantly. My baby slept in her husbands arms so easily it amazed me and I got a nap on her settee. With all boxes ticked and all needs met we were given a lift home.
Angela is only one of the beautiful people I've met in Stevenage. I've met an older mom who gives the best hugs in the world and is always available for a chat and a cup of tea; a budding entrepreneur mom who loves singing; my homemaker mom who is just friendly and knows how to hook people up and a North London mom and Gran who love to give and are full of stories of the place where they lived most of their lives. I've only been here 4 months. I also met a lovely business mom who has a cleaning business and does babysitting to make ends meet but the bonus is she likes the same music as I do. I now know I can go anywhere and make quality friends. I try my best to be friendly and open with people and I find I get it in return. I've also got the greatest friend of all Jesus who knows my every need and meets them by sending me people such as these and by giving me the song 'theres not a friend' by my wonderful gospel singing friend. I'll get his permission before I give you his name.
Angela is only one of the beautiful people I've met in Stevenage. I've met an older mom who gives the best hugs in the world and is always available for a chat and a cup of tea; a budding entrepreneur mom who loves singing; my homemaker mom who is just friendly and knows how to hook people up and a North London mom and Gran who love to give and are full of stories of the place where they lived most of their lives. I've only been here 4 months. I also met a lovely business mom who has a cleaning business and does babysitting to make ends meet but the bonus is she likes the same music as I do. I now know I can go anywhere and make quality friends. I try my best to be friendly and open with people and I find I get it in return. I've also got the greatest friend of all Jesus who knows my every need and meets them by sending me people such as these and by giving me the song 'theres not a friend' by my wonderful gospel singing friend. I'll get his permission before I give you his name.
Sunday, 18 January 2009
The eczema problem
My 7 month old baby son has eczema. I can't remember the how old he was when I first saw it but the first that I knew he had some sort of skin problem was when he went dark over the summer and then all of the skin peeled off to reveal a very pale almost white skin. Then his hair slowly started peeling off . The hair started receding around the hairline until he had one little cute patch of long hair left of centre of his head.
His cheeks started to get dry and I started to find his skin very hard to hydrate. His skin looked very inspite of my moisturising it daily with Aqueous cream.
Over Christmas the red cheeks became weepy and extremly itchy. I was afraid to leave him in his cot for fear he would scratch all the skin off his cheeks. Also at night time he started to get very irritable and I was at a loss as to know what to do.
In October I got the first and last piece of good advice from a health practitioner, a health visitor. She suggested I go to the Dr and ask for lactose free milk or put myself on a lactose free diet. I went to the GP (a locum) and she dismissed it out of hand and said I should continue to breastfeed. I was prescribed doublebase and the first of three lots of anti biotics. Prior to this I was prescribed Fucidin H which is an acid which kills bacteria together with hydorcortisone. This worked for one week and then the eczema flared up worse than before.
I then saw another Dr who was resident at the surgery he seemed helpful in that he told me that the treament for eczema is steriods and emollients. He then went on to prescribe Cetraben. The Cetreben went on very thickly but when the cream had evaporated it left the skin so dry skin was flaking and itching. I went back to Doublebase but the itching redness and oosing got worse and worse.
On the day after the baby was 6 months I started to wean him making my own purees. I found that my son was incredibly hungry and needed 3 to 4 meals a day and at times seconds and a pudding. However some nights when for some reason he hadn't eaten enough he would be awake at night and sucking on my breast. I got into a bad habit of trying to ease his restlessness at with breast milk which was leaving me increasingly drained. No matter how little sleep I was getting I needed to get up by 6:30am to make breakfast for my other two and get everyone ready to take my eldest to school. Two weeks later it was Christmas and some good advice came from a friend who had vitiligo. She gave me the first piece of advice on how to manage eczema. She encouraged me to buy milk which was lactose free as many people are allergic or intolerant to milk. I bought my first tin of Nutramigen the day after boxing day and I saw a difference. If he had 3 bottles of milk a day ( I made some of it into baby cereal as he didn't like drinking it at first) plus his 3 meals he slept through without any itching. Once the 3rd tin was empty baby had a flare up. I went to the Dr and he said that he couldn't prescribe it as a consultant would have to do it. (Nutramigen costs £13 a tin and lasts a week). He said I should try ordinary formula.
Tried ordinary formula and on top of the eczema he got some small red spots.
Hubby and I decided to stop the formula milk and I went back to breast feeding.
Over the past month I've been to the Dr for the baby twice. The first time he was extremely irritiable and was jumping instead of itching. When we got to the Drs he was calm and I was told that the only treatment he would get from a skin specialist is steriods and cream. He was finally put on repeat presciption for his emollient. I forgot to ask about his chest so we went back to the Drs as an emergency. I saw a Dr I had never seen before. He prescribed Fucidin H (a massive big tube) again and orciprenaline and anti biotics for his chest. He didn't explain
why he had precribed the orciprenaline so I had to come home and look it up. Its a drug normally used for asthma and associated bronchal condtions. It has some pretty frightening side effects and he is to take it 4 x a day. The anti biotics were also to be taken 4 x a day. I think that this is too much medication for a 7 month old whose system is already weakened by eczema so I haven't given him any of the medication. I looked up how to treat asthma and found a site called the Healthy House which advocated the use of a humidifier in the bedroom. So I have been putting a bucket of hot water in our bedroom with a couple of drops of olbas oil until I can buy a humidifier. I have however used a little of the Fucidin H as his rash was spreading simply because I thought there was no alternative. I have since found that you can get Fucidin without the hydrocortisone from NHS direct. I am so mad about this because the first time I saw the Dr I expressed that I didn't want the baby taking steriods. I've since been told that Fucidin H can thin the skin. I have witnessed this as the baby' skin dies and it becomes extremely sore and uncomfortable The only way he gets comfort is to rub the dead skin off. In fact baby is on my lap awake as I write this because he's so uncomfortable, he's also teething which doesn't help matters.
Advice from friends with eczema
As well as going using the NHS I have also asked friends. My journalist friend sent me an article that was in Metro about eczema and water softeners. (to find, google eczema water softener). My friends brother also used installed a water softening system in his house after noticing that his eczema disappered while staying at a hotel that used a water softening system. I also spoke to another friend and she has had eczema since childhood.
The advice her mother was given was to bathe affected area using sea/rock salt and very warm water. The water is to be sprinkled on to the skin. the skin is not to be rubbed or massaged at this juncture then moisturise with expressed breast milk. Keeping the breast milk refridgerated. I tried the salt water bath when the skin was red raw and it seemed to seal the wounds. She also said that if she wants to moisturise her skin whilst in the bath she put oats in a small piece of stocking and puts it in the bath together with a little honey. She also says you can get some seaweed that you can put in the bath to nourish the skin. She advocated pure coconut oil as an emollient. She recommended a plant called Holy basil which has a sap which is anti bacterial which is good on the skin. She uses soap nuts to wash the families clothes and as she bottle feeds she ensures that her sons drink plenty of water between feeds.
Another friend recommended http://www.eczemaclothing/ .com as my son was out growing the scratch mits and I was using socks (socks only irritate the skin further). This has tops with mits incorporated and sleep wear and dungarees which cover the feet..
As treatment of eczema is trial and error you need as much advice as possible. Just remember some general rules. Soap is a no no as water alone dries the skin never mind use of an alkaline. Plus its good to hear from at least 3 people to confirm any advice given.
I see the specialist on 30th January and I hope to get further advice on how to manage this condition as not only does it cause the sufferer discomfort, it disrupts the family and can incapacitate the main carer.
His cheeks started to get dry and I started to find his skin very hard to hydrate. His skin looked very inspite of my moisturising it daily with Aqueous cream.
Over Christmas the red cheeks became weepy and extremly itchy. I was afraid to leave him in his cot for fear he would scratch all the skin off his cheeks. Also at night time he started to get very irritable and I was at a loss as to know what to do.
In October I got the first and last piece of good advice from a health practitioner, a health visitor. She suggested I go to the Dr and ask for lactose free milk or put myself on a lactose free diet. I went to the GP (a locum) and she dismissed it out of hand and said I should continue to breastfeed. I was prescribed doublebase and the first of three lots of anti biotics. Prior to this I was prescribed Fucidin H which is an acid which kills bacteria together with hydorcortisone. This worked for one week and then the eczema flared up worse than before.
I then saw another Dr who was resident at the surgery he seemed helpful in that he told me that the treament for eczema is steriods and emollients. He then went on to prescribe Cetraben. The Cetreben went on very thickly but when the cream had evaporated it left the skin so dry skin was flaking and itching. I went back to Doublebase but the itching redness and oosing got worse and worse.
On the day after the baby was 6 months I started to wean him making my own purees. I found that my son was incredibly hungry and needed 3 to 4 meals a day and at times seconds and a pudding. However some nights when for some reason he hadn't eaten enough he would be awake at night and sucking on my breast. I got into a bad habit of trying to ease his restlessness at with breast milk which was leaving me increasingly drained. No matter how little sleep I was getting I needed to get up by 6:30am to make breakfast for my other two and get everyone ready to take my eldest to school. Two weeks later it was Christmas and some good advice came from a friend who had vitiligo. She gave me the first piece of advice on how to manage eczema. She encouraged me to buy milk which was lactose free as many people are allergic or intolerant to milk. I bought my first tin of Nutramigen the day after boxing day and I saw a difference. If he had 3 bottles of milk a day ( I made some of it into baby cereal as he didn't like drinking it at first) plus his 3 meals he slept through without any itching. Once the 3rd tin was empty baby had a flare up. I went to the Dr and he said that he couldn't prescribe it as a consultant would have to do it. (Nutramigen costs £13 a tin and lasts a week). He said I should try ordinary formula.
Tried ordinary formula and on top of the eczema he got some small red spots.
Hubby and I decided to stop the formula milk and I went back to breast feeding.
Over the past month I've been to the Dr for the baby twice. The first time he was extremely irritiable and was jumping instead of itching. When we got to the Drs he was calm and I was told that the only treatment he would get from a skin specialist is steriods and cream. He was finally put on repeat presciption for his emollient. I forgot to ask about his chest so we went back to the Drs as an emergency. I saw a Dr I had never seen before. He prescribed Fucidin H (a massive big tube) again and orciprenaline and anti biotics for his chest. He didn't explain
why he had precribed the orciprenaline so I had to come home and look it up. Its a drug normally used for asthma and associated bronchal condtions. It has some pretty frightening side effects and he is to take it 4 x a day. The anti biotics were also to be taken 4 x a day. I think that this is too much medication for a 7 month old whose system is already weakened by eczema so I haven't given him any of the medication. I looked up how to treat asthma and found a site called the Healthy House which advocated the use of a humidifier in the bedroom. So I have been putting a bucket of hot water in our bedroom with a couple of drops of olbas oil until I can buy a humidifier. I have however used a little of the Fucidin H as his rash was spreading simply because I thought there was no alternative. I have since found that you can get Fucidin without the hydrocortisone from NHS direct. I am so mad about this because the first time I saw the Dr I expressed that I didn't want the baby taking steriods. I've since been told that Fucidin H can thin the skin. I have witnessed this as the baby' skin dies and it becomes extremely sore and uncomfortable The only way he gets comfort is to rub the dead skin off. In fact baby is on my lap awake as I write this because he's so uncomfortable, he's also teething which doesn't help matters.
Advice from friends with eczema
As well as going using the NHS I have also asked friends. My journalist friend sent me an article that was in Metro about eczema and water softeners. (to find, google eczema water softener). My friends brother also used installed a water softening system in his house after noticing that his eczema disappered while staying at a hotel that used a water softening system. I also spoke to another friend and she has had eczema since childhood.
The advice her mother was given was to bathe affected area using sea/rock salt and very warm water. The water is to be sprinkled on to the skin. the skin is not to be rubbed or massaged at this juncture then moisturise with expressed breast milk. Keeping the breast milk refridgerated. I tried the salt water bath when the skin was red raw and it seemed to seal the wounds. She also said that if she wants to moisturise her skin whilst in the bath she put oats in a small piece of stocking and puts it in the bath together with a little honey. She also says you can get some seaweed that you can put in the bath to nourish the skin. She advocated pure coconut oil as an emollient. She recommended a plant called Holy basil which has a sap which is anti bacterial which is good on the skin. She uses soap nuts to wash the families clothes and as she bottle feeds she ensures that her sons drink plenty of water between feeds.
Another friend recommended http://www.eczemaclothing/ .com as my son was out growing the scratch mits and I was using socks (socks only irritate the skin further). This has tops with mits incorporated and sleep wear and dungarees which cover the feet..
As treatment of eczema is trial and error you need as much advice as possible. Just remember some general rules. Soap is a no no as water alone dries the skin never mind use of an alkaline. Plus its good to hear from at least 3 people to confirm any advice given.
I see the specialist on 30th January and I hope to get further advice on how to manage this condition as not only does it cause the sufferer discomfort, it disrupts the family and can incapacitate the main carer.
Friday, 16 January 2009
Life so far
Been meaning to blog to give everyone a lowdown on Christmas but that was so long ago. We had a good Christmas. My lasting and strongest image of Christmas are my hubby and my boys including the baby playing the game that I bought! I could see the back of the baby's head (6mths old) and he was trying to pick up sticks. It truly was a Kodak moment.
For the past 10 years I have been greatly humbled by my circumstances. If life had gone the way I designed it I would be a successful Lawyer power dressing everyday, driving a luxury car, shopping at all the best designer shops all around the world. Today I am a teacher/lecturer, my hubby drives an MPV - I don't want a luxury car right now I like being eco friendly and I look for a car that looks good but is practical and economical to run and I don't do too much clothes shopping as I have other interests.
I'm not telling you that I don't aspire for better for myself of my family but its not tied up in material things. I bought one of the Christmas game for the boys from Oxfam.
When I visit Oxfam with the boys they don't want to leave as they have games and books. All they see is things they like they are not even aware that the goods are second hand.
I see this credit crunch as an opportunity for creativity and as a catalyst for some changes. I hope to be able to grow some of my own produce this year and I want to work on being debt free. I'm setting myself a challenge to find a job nearer home. I know that we are in a recession but I'm flexible and this is yet another challenge which I believe I can overcome.
For the past 10 years I have been greatly humbled by my circumstances. If life had gone the way I designed it I would be a successful Lawyer power dressing everyday, driving a luxury car, shopping at all the best designer shops all around the world. Today I am a teacher/lecturer, my hubby drives an MPV - I don't want a luxury car right now I like being eco friendly and I look for a car that looks good but is practical and economical to run and I don't do too much clothes shopping as I have other interests.
I'm not telling you that I don't aspire for better for myself of my family but its not tied up in material things. I bought one of the Christmas game for the boys from Oxfam.
When I visit Oxfam with the boys they don't want to leave as they have games and books. All they see is things they like they are not even aware that the goods are second hand.
I see this credit crunch as an opportunity for creativity and as a catalyst for some changes. I hope to be able to grow some of my own produce this year and I want to work on being debt free. I'm setting myself a challenge to find a job nearer home. I know that we are in a recession but I'm flexible and this is yet another challenge which I believe I can overcome.
Tuesday, 23 December 2008
Why do we as Black people like to eat cheap food?
If I tell you what I spent myhis afternoon doing you will really laugh. We must have gone to one of the most deprived areas of London to buy yam flour as hubby says that the boys want Nigerian food for Christmas. Although I recall my boys saying they want pounded yam, my hubby really wants his native food this Christmas. However every time I said that he wanted it and that it was his desire to have Nigerian food he kept on protesting it was the boys! Anyhoo. We found this place as we wanted to go to a town nearest to us that sold the items we required. I will not tell you where I was unless you really insist as I don't want to offend anyone but suffice to say I was in North London. We went to an Asian owned shop in an indoor market which sold African Caribbean food. The fresh food such as the plantain, scotch bonnet peppers and coriander were of the poorest quality we couldn't buy any. Yet I saw other people trying to squeeze and test the peppers willing them to be good enough to buy. As the shop was too small for the pushchair, I stood outside whilst hubby bought the dried goods. Whilst I was outside this woman picked up a bunch of coriander which was so limp I couldn't tell you what you could have used it for. She picked up one bunch and put it down only to pick up an equally rubbishy bunch and shook it from side to side. I was willing her not to buy it and she went into the shop and bought it. It made me so sad. Why do we short change ourselves like this?
When I was younger I used to suffer from stomach cramps. When I was 22 I had enough of the constant bloating and trying to use tea and cake to soothe my stomach ( stupid i know but I really didn't know any better). I stopped drinking fizzy drinks and dipping my chicken pieces in Kentucky style flour. I also stopped buying cheap food. Don't get me wrong I like chicken and chips as much as the next person but I now eat whole rice, I don't use gravy powder and I buy quality fruit and veg. Yes food costs me a lot of money but guess what I don't get cramps and if I don't walk at least mile a day I don't sleep good. Our health is our wealth lets stop short changing ourselves. If we can't afford quality produce consider growing your own, befriend someone with an allotment, grow your own herbs on the window ledge for God's sake and please lets stop short changing ourselves by buying empty shells of salads, tasteless fruits and filling up on carbs to satisfy hunger and not to properly feed our bodies.
When I was younger I used to suffer from stomach cramps. When I was 22 I had enough of the constant bloating and trying to use tea and cake to soothe my stomach ( stupid i know but I really didn't know any better). I stopped drinking fizzy drinks and dipping my chicken pieces in Kentucky style flour. I also stopped buying cheap food. Don't get me wrong I like chicken and chips as much as the next person but I now eat whole rice, I don't use gravy powder and I buy quality fruit and veg. Yes food costs me a lot of money but guess what I don't get cramps and if I don't walk at least mile a day I don't sleep good. Our health is our wealth lets stop short changing ourselves. If we can't afford quality produce consider growing your own, befriend someone with an allotment, grow your own herbs on the window ledge for God's sake and please lets stop short changing ourselves by buying empty shells of salads, tasteless fruits and filling up on carbs to satisfy hunger and not to properly feed our bodies.
Monday, 22 December 2008
I moved to Hertfordshire from South London in October. My eldest (5 1/2) has been in school since November. I'm particularly concerned about this school choice as I didn't get the school nearest to where I live and prior to this move my son has changed school once already.
I think for the first time my very sociable yet boisterous son feels a little out of his depth. He's complained of bullying already which I have acted on. Spoke to teacher and deputy head. They both think that my son has misinterpreted the word, yet he gives me regular reports of certain boys not leaving him alone. Any way the situation is to be monitored next year.
I know for certain that my eldest really feels like the odd one out. On a good note we have made friends with a boy and his mother from the school. The new friend is not in my sons class and we are going to see Madagascar 2 on Christmas eve.
Next bugbear is Christmas. At the beginning of the week I asked my dear husband to let me know what he is doing this week as he insists on us having Christmas together in this new house that isn't totally unpacked. Only to find that he was going to check some items out at an auction and then to return to the auction tomorrow to possibly buy. He has stipulated that no Christmas decorations are to be put up until all the unpacked boxes are cleared. This is more than 2 days work. This is what I want. I want to have a lovely Christmas together with 1 or 2 events thrown in such as a lovely country walk, visiting Church and a visit to Hertford before Christmas so that the boys can make some last minute decorations. As we are going to do the Christmas decorations late I was planning to make this one of the events of the holiday. Well I will be doing this tomorrow. Dear husband says that he will buy the big present for the boys as he knows what boys want. This still hasn't been done and if he thinks I'm going to ToysRus on Christmas eve he's got another thing coming! I will be buying a couple of games and I have already bought some books for the boys.
Picked up a self help book on motherhood from the library. Didn't think I needed it was just curious and wanted to know what it said about me time. Turns out its an excellent book asking the reader " what did you enjoy doing before you had children and what did this activity do for you?". The book is from the "teach yourself" range entitled Motherhood.
I think for the first time my very sociable yet boisterous son feels a little out of his depth. He's complained of bullying already which I have acted on. Spoke to teacher and deputy head. They both think that my son has misinterpreted the word, yet he gives me regular reports of certain boys not leaving him alone. Any way the situation is to be monitored next year.
I know for certain that my eldest really feels like the odd one out. On a good note we have made friends with a boy and his mother from the school. The new friend is not in my sons class and we are going to see Madagascar 2 on Christmas eve.
Next bugbear is Christmas. At the beginning of the week I asked my dear husband to let me know what he is doing this week as he insists on us having Christmas together in this new house that isn't totally unpacked. Only to find that he was going to check some items out at an auction and then to return to the auction tomorrow to possibly buy. He has stipulated that no Christmas decorations are to be put up until all the unpacked boxes are cleared. This is more than 2 days work. This is what I want. I want to have a lovely Christmas together with 1 or 2 events thrown in such as a lovely country walk, visiting Church and a visit to Hertford before Christmas so that the boys can make some last minute decorations. As we are going to do the Christmas decorations late I was planning to make this one of the events of the holiday. Well I will be doing this tomorrow. Dear husband says that he will buy the big present for the boys as he knows what boys want. This still hasn't been done and if he thinks I'm going to ToysRus on Christmas eve he's got another thing coming! I will be buying a couple of games and I have already bought some books for the boys.
Picked up a self help book on motherhood from the library. Didn't think I needed it was just curious and wanted to know what it said about me time. Turns out its an excellent book asking the reader " what did you enjoy doing before you had children and what did this activity do for you?". The book is from the "teach yourself" range entitled Motherhood.
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