This tired stay and home mom versus working mom debate.

I think this stay at home mom working mom debate is stupid. Everyone is different. You cannot prescribe one form of behaviour for everyone as everyone is different. If staying at home works for you and yours do it. If going to work helps you to feel like Ms Independant then do it. If you have to work when you'd rather not realise its hard work but try and make some special days for you and yours to remind them that you love them. My mom worked 2 nights while she had us and she said that work gave her a break. Similarly I was reluctant to go back to work in London but to my surprise I'm loving dressing up and going to London to work. I enjoy the vibrancy of London compared to my quiet town and its a beautiful balance. I've been out to dinner countless times, connected with my funky collegues, made lunch for one of my collegues and friends. I feel alive again. I am also arranging to do a yoga class after work on Thursday (I work til 1pm). Then I can go swimming on Friday afternoons. When I was home I was at the school 6 times a day. It hardly gave me time to do anything. If I have a coffee with a friend it has a knock on effect on the whole day. Forget me time. So although I'm busier than ever before I am happier. Before I moved I would go to mother and baby groups and go to parks and the Horniman museum. Housework did take a back seat to my husbands disgust.
I'm going to be tracking this debate in the newspapers and would greatly appreciate some feedback.