Birthday season is now over for my immeadiate family. We are all one year older and very much wiser. Hubby was saying to me that I look weird a woman with a very young face but when you look at her hair its riddled with grey. Going grey early is a family trait. Been mulling over whether I want to dye it or not. I'm 38 now and I saw my first grey at 26 and then I didn't really notice it much until some time during my 37th year the top of my hair is riddled with it. I gonna dye it as I don't want to look like an old codger.
I'm really enjoying the boys at the moment. However I get glimpses of what it will be like when the baby is a little older as sometimes boyish silliness really annoys me at times. I'll be trying to read a bed time story and baby, now 1 and son no2,4, are too busy giggling and rolling about and screaming. Normally my eldest son wants to listen to the story but one day they were all silly and I really felt like the only sensible girl! That said I will not be going there again - getting pregnant in the vain hope of getting a girl. 3 kids 6 and under is more than I can bear. If I really want a girl I may foster or adopt if we get a bigger property. I can satisfy my baby girl fix easily I have 3 little nieces and and 2 big neices. I will be seeing them over the summer. I also found that there's loads of girls where I live.
On our way home from the park we bumped into 2 girls. One of them was extremly friendly and was pretending to take pictures of the boys with her v tech camera. In the end I gave her my phone to take pictures of the boys. At the end she gave son no2 a big hug. That was so nice and she told me that she will be at the free play scheme that my eldest son will be going to.
The holiday torment has started with my eldest son asking me every minute "when are we going to the seaside? Tomorrow?" " Can we go to Uncle Toni's?" "We never do anthing over the holidays". I have mentally devised a weekly schedule of things to do and I normally do something with him in mind but its never enough!
Happy holidays everyone!!!
Saturday, 18 July 2009
Thursday, 18 June 2009
Good news
Child no 2 starts school full time in September!!! Hurray. He was originally to start in January but the school have recruited another teacher.
I go to a Spa on the 13th July, can't wait.
Still knackered but opportunity for rest is coming.
Attended my first sports day. It was a proper athletic event with an obstacle race, sprint and skipping race. Son no1 came 3rd in the skipping and I was so proud as he made sure he did the moves carefully. He asked a couple of weeks ago how to skip as he kept tripping over and I said treat it like running on the spot, to his credit he took the advice and executed it perfectly. Son no2 until recently showed no interest in running but as soon as Spring emerged he's been running in front of me on the way to school, even beating athletic son no1. He came 3rd in the running race and could have gone faster but didn't really feel like competing. His form was relaxed and amazing, bless him. In the meantime son no 3 (the baby) was enjoying being held and cooed over by my friend and her mom.
I dedicate this entry to a dear friend and mother of 4 Linda. She was a collegue I worked with. One Friday in May we were getting ready for a weekend of marking. She complained of a headache and I suggested it may be dehydration but she said firmly and knowingly it's not that. One
Saturday evening I got the call that Linda collapsed and was in a coma due to an anuerism and that it didn't look good. I went to the hospital on Sunday to be told by her loved ones that she was brain dead and we were to say our goodbyes. On the Monday morning they turned off the life support machine and my friend was no more. She was supposed to come to the Spa with me and it took until now to say I'm not getting any more energy so I should go. Linda was full of life, she travelled, she was a giver and she never said anything bad about anyone. She was the salt of the earth. When I first started teaching Linda, her best friend and collegue and another good friend used to have lunch at the local cafe most days. There she shared stories of her travels, and her children. She even went to School with Billy Ocean! Always game for a laugh she frequently dressed up for comic relief and got us all doing comedy sketches one year. She will be missed but her spirit lives on and I am encouraged to love God, love my kids, enjoy life and be good to people like Linda did. May her soul rest in peace.
I go to a Spa on the 13th July, can't wait.
Still knackered but opportunity for rest is coming.
Attended my first sports day. It was a proper athletic event with an obstacle race, sprint and skipping race. Son no1 came 3rd in the skipping and I was so proud as he made sure he did the moves carefully. He asked a couple of weeks ago how to skip as he kept tripping over and I said treat it like running on the spot, to his credit he took the advice and executed it perfectly. Son no2 until recently showed no interest in running but as soon as Spring emerged he's been running in front of me on the way to school, even beating athletic son no1. He came 3rd in the running race and could have gone faster but didn't really feel like competing. His form was relaxed and amazing, bless him. In the meantime son no 3 (the baby) was enjoying being held and cooed over by my friend and her mom.
I dedicate this entry to a dear friend and mother of 4 Linda. She was a collegue I worked with. One Friday in May we were getting ready for a weekend of marking. She complained of a headache and I suggested it may be dehydration but she said firmly and knowingly it's not that. One
Saturday evening I got the call that Linda collapsed and was in a coma due to an anuerism and that it didn't look good. I went to the hospital on Sunday to be told by her loved ones that she was brain dead and we were to say our goodbyes. On the Monday morning they turned off the life support machine and my friend was no more. She was supposed to come to the Spa with me and it took until now to say I'm not getting any more energy so I should go. Linda was full of life, she travelled, she was a giver and she never said anything bad about anyone. She was the salt of the earth. When I first started teaching Linda, her best friend and collegue and another good friend used to have lunch at the local cafe most days. There she shared stories of her travels, and her children. She even went to School with Billy Ocean! Always game for a laugh she frequently dressed up for comic relief and got us all doing comedy sketches one year. She will be missed but her spirit lives on and I am encouraged to love God, love my kids, enjoy life and be good to people like Linda did. May her soul rest in peace.
Saturday, 13 June 2009
Tiredness
OMG! I frequently complain about tiredness but this period is the worst I've felt in my life. I am emerging from it now. For me not to return to that level again I need some frequent me time.
Since having the baby I was not sleeping and was suffering from interupted sleep for about approx 9months. Baby finally started sleeping and so did I and my body had to adjust to having more sleep at night. But this sleep was not restful and refreshing, it was necessary but I remember thinking about when I had to be up a good hour before I needed to be up.
At half term I lay on the sofa for 3 days. On the 3rd day my husband recognised there might be something wrong! Typical.
We've now worked out a rota for household tasks which is quite helpful. Plus its birthday season in our house. The Season starts from the first May Bank holiday till the first week in July which is my birthday. It has certainly lifted the family.
I want to work in a yoga or relaxation period for 30 mins to an hour a day but it will have to be gradual.
I'd love to hear similar stories of tiredness and how to combat it.
Peace out
Since having the baby I was not sleeping and was suffering from interupted sleep for about approx 9months. Baby finally started sleeping and so did I and my body had to adjust to having more sleep at night. But this sleep was not restful and refreshing, it was necessary but I remember thinking about when I had to be up a good hour before I needed to be up.
At half term I lay on the sofa for 3 days. On the 3rd day my husband recognised there might be something wrong! Typical.
We've now worked out a rota for household tasks which is quite helpful. Plus its birthday season in our house. The Season starts from the first May Bank holiday till the first week in July which is my birthday. It has certainly lifted the family.
I want to work in a yoga or relaxation period for 30 mins to an hour a day but it will have to be gradual.
I'd love to hear similar stories of tiredness and how to combat it.
Peace out
Monday, 4 May 2009
Highs
- Had a wonderful bank holiday with my family. Because of sheer tiredness we haven't been going anywhere far which means we haven't been to visit loved ones but we've been spending time together and its good. It was the first of the family birthdays this weekend which is fab as it always falls on the first May bank Holiday.
- Baby's eczema is no longer causing sleepless nights.. His skinstill itches which cuts the skin from time to time. Skin splits around the ears and it is this area which he rubs when he is tired as well as the cheeks. A mom and childminder recommened Allergenics, a non steroidal ointment made entirely out of natural products available at Holland and Barretts. It has Shea butter as a base, a substance which I'm familiar with. So far, great. My main feat is to now keep the skin well moisturised. The only areas affected are the cheeks, ears, inside crease of elbows and upper thighs. The rest of the skin is beautiful and naturally moist which leads me to believe inability to cool down in these areas is the main culprit of the eczema.
- Baby now 11 months and I love babies from 8 months til the time they begin to walk as it is a magical time where they communicate with you in some beautiful ways. My son stares at me if he hasn't seen me for a while and soemtimes if I look at him from afar he gives me a knowing smile. He dances to the music of the B&Q advert on the TV and has been singing for some time now. He also communicates by humming. eg if I call his name he says a high pitched ""hmmmm?".
- Enjoying adult conversation at work.
Lows
- I wrote out an extensive descriptive list of how a cocktail of a bad period, feelings of inadequacy, pestered by my eldest for food and drink ( I call it being a short order chef!), longer but unrestful sleep; pressures at work etc were the reason behind feeling low . But I pressed something on the laptop and it deleted it!!! Typical! Maybe you weren't meant to see my ranting in detail!!!
So I suppose I'm being forced to "accentuate the positive".
Monday, 30 March 2009
The lows of being a working mom
It would be hypocritical of me to talk only about the advantages to being a working mom and not give full weight to the disadvantages.
I work 3 days a week, Monday, Thursday and Friday but mentally I'm always at work. I on my so called days off I have another job entitled 'Ferrier to school.' On a bad day I go back and forth to school 3 times. So thats 6 journeys to school and back. Each journey is 1.7 miles. I walk now the weather is good and this eats up the whole of my day. This is because son no2 is half day at nursery. Half day nursery doesn't work for me . The school doesn't allow you to pay for a 2nd session during the day but I'm going to suggest it. When I was in London son no2 and son no1 went to a pre-school that took the government funding and allowed you to pay for the extra sessions. They were really affordable and it meant that a 3 year old can be at preschool/nursery from 9 til 3. This is a much better arrangement for me and my child. He's ready to stay at school all day yet he will not have the opportunity till Jan 2010! I am livid! In London he would have been starting school full time by October 2009.
Just lately I have found it hard to wind down. I just feel there's so much to be done and not enough time or energy in the day to do them. Plus I'm experiening the postcode lottery. The NHS provision is very different from where I came from. Different meaning bad, poor, less than mediocre.
What to do? Discussed going back to London/Surrey as house prices have dropped. Still have to up my income though.
I have been able to find a way to cope. I ask friends for advice and I've been getting good advice lately. I also always make time for my friends, we either go out for coffee or breakfast. Yesterday as I spoke to my friend I felt as if a weight had been lifted off me.
Thank God for sisterhood.
I work 3 days a week, Monday, Thursday and Friday but mentally I'm always at work. I on my so called days off I have another job entitled 'Ferrier to school.' On a bad day I go back and forth to school 3 times. So thats 6 journeys to school and back. Each journey is 1.7 miles. I walk now the weather is good and this eats up the whole of my day. This is because son no2 is half day at nursery. Half day nursery doesn't work for me . The school doesn't allow you to pay for a 2nd session during the day but I'm going to suggest it. When I was in London son no2 and son no1 went to a pre-school that took the government funding and allowed you to pay for the extra sessions. They were really affordable and it meant that a 3 year old can be at preschool/nursery from 9 til 3. This is a much better arrangement for me and my child. He's ready to stay at school all day yet he will not have the opportunity till Jan 2010! I am livid! In London he would have been starting school full time by October 2009.
Just lately I have found it hard to wind down. I just feel there's so much to be done and not enough time or energy in the day to do them. Plus I'm experiening the postcode lottery. The NHS provision is very different from where I came from. Different meaning bad, poor, less than mediocre.
What to do? Discussed going back to London/Surrey as house prices have dropped. Still have to up my income though.
I have been able to find a way to cope. I ask friends for advice and I've been getting good advice lately. I also always make time for my friends, we either go out for coffee or breakfast. Yesterday as I spoke to my friend I felt as if a weight had been lifted off me.
Thank God for sisterhood.
Saturday, 7 March 2009
This tired stay and home mom versus working mom debate.
I think this stay at home mom working mom debate is stupid. Everyone is different. You cannot prescribe one form of behaviour for everyone as everyone is different. If staying at home works for you and yours do it. If going to work helps you to feel like Ms Independant then do it. If you have to work when you'd rather not realise its hard work but try and make some special days for you and yours to remind them that you love them. My mom worked 2 nights while she had us and she said that work gave her a break. Similarly I was reluctant to go back to work in London but to my surprise I'm loving dressing up and going to London to work. I enjoy the vibrancy of London compared to my quiet town and its a beautiful balance. I've been out to dinner countless times, connected with my funky collegues, made lunch for one of my collegues and friends. I feel alive again. I am also arranging to do a yoga class after work on Thursday (I work til 1pm). Then I can go swimming on Friday afternoons. When I was home I was at the school 6 times a day. It hardly gave me time to do anything. If I have a coffee with a friend it has a knock on effect on the whole day. Forget me time. So although I'm busier than ever before I am happier. Before I moved I would go to mother and baby groups and go to parks and the Horniman museum. Housework did take a back seat to my husbands disgust.
I'm going to be tracking this debate in the newspapers and would greatly appreciate some feedback.
I'm going to be tracking this debate in the newspapers and would greatly appreciate some feedback.
Time for the Church to be united
Went to a Newwine women's conference on Saturday with the Baptist church I attend. I was greatly encouraged and my mind was opened. People were speaking in tongues, falling out, shouting and moaning in the Spirit! It Still wasn't as loud as Pentecostals but wow it was good! I got confimation about using your gifts and talents, things that come natural to you so that your light shines among everyone you meet.
So Pentecostal people we do not have the monopoly on the Holy Spirit and we must take part in what the Church of England is doing because despite controversy there is nothing that divides us spiritually. There is a richness in diversity and I have found this whenever I attend a service which is multicultural and interdenominational.
There was a time when race and loud worship meant we weren't welcome and some churches still have that hang up but not all. Lets come together and really celebrate God's Kingdom now.
So Pentecostal people we do not have the monopoly on the Holy Spirit and we must take part in what the Church of England is doing because despite controversy there is nothing that divides us spiritually. There is a richness in diversity and I have found this whenever I attend a service which is multicultural and interdenominational.
There was a time when race and loud worship meant we weren't welcome and some churches still have that hang up but not all. Lets come together and really celebrate God's Kingdom now.
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